Many of us have been taught to fear what comes after life. For some, the idea of eternal judgment is terrifying — visions of hell, the bottomless pit, or fire and brimstone meant to keep us in constant fear. Growing up hearing these things can plant deep anxiety: Will I be judged for my sins? Will I be thrown into that pit? What if I’m not good enough?
But the more I reflected, the more I questioned: Is it really the act itself that matters most — or is it the intention behind it?
For example, if someone steals out of desperation to feed their children, is that the same as someone who steals out of greed? If someone hurts another out of self-defense, is that the same as someone acting out of cruelty?
I believe the heart behind the act matters. I don’t think we’re here to be judged purely on what we’ve done, but rather on why we did it.
When I started my own healing journey, I had to confront this fear of judgment. I’d carried so much guilt and shame from the past — things I thought would damn me forever. But as I dug deeper, I realized: I couldn’t truly let go of that fear until I understood my own intentions — and also learned to see the intentions behind others’ actions.
Walking in someone else’s shoes taught me empathy. It taught me that people’s actions often come from pain, trauma, survival — not from evil.
That shift changed everything for me. It allowed me to forgive myself. It allowed me to release the old fear of judgment — and instead focus on growth, healing, and becoming a better version of myself.
✨ Healing became the focus.
Not the fear of hell. Not the fear of punishment.
But learning, understanding, and rising above it.
When we begin to focus on healing, we free ourselves from shame. We give ourselves permission to grow. We stop defining ourselves by the worst things we’ve done — and instead by how we learn and move forward.
In the end, I believe we are judged — if we are judged at all — based on the why, not just the what. It’s about the heart behind the action, not simply the action alone.
So now, instead of living in fear of some pit, I choose to live in self-awareness, compassion, and healing.
And girl, I’m doing just fine. 💪✨